Relationships: How To Divorce-Proof Your Marriage (While You’re Still Dating)


There’s no secret to getting and staying married. But you do have to work at it. And the best time to start is before you tie the knot. Divorce-proof your marriage while you’re still dating and when you do jump the broom, it’s more likely to be forever.

WAIT TO TIE THE KNOT
Love at fist sight is a beautiful thing, but couples who wait three years or more to get engaged are 39% less likely to get divorced.

GET GOOD INFLUENCES
Surround yourself with strong relationships. If all of your friends are single or divorced folks, splitting up will always seem like an easy out. Get more married people on your team and benefit from a little positive peer pressure to work it out instead of walking it off.


HUSTLE
The more money you earn, the more likely you’ll stay together. Earn between $50,000 and $75,000 a year, divorce is 39 percent less likely. Earn over $100,000 it climbs to 42%. Earn over $125,000 and you’re half as likely to get divorced than a couple who makes $25,000/year between them.


SAVE
Until you make it to millionaire status, make sure to budget the money you do have. Financial trouble is the #1 cause for for divorce.


GO TO CHURCH
Couples that pray together really do stay together. Attend religious services regularly and you’re 46% less likely to breakup than couples who sleep in on Sunday.

DECIDE TO STAY TOGETHER
Nobody intends to get divorced. But if you’re not actively trying to stay together it’s easy for your relationship to slide through the cracks.
Strong married couples put effort into staying together. The next time you make a decision ask, “will this help my relationship?” Keep it priority number one and you’ll jump the broom with a strong foundation.


FIND YOUR COMPROMISE
You can’t change a slob into a neat freak. And trying will put a lot of unhealthy stress on your relationship.

Instead of pushing each other to change, find a compromise. Maybe you talk less and he listens more. Work on finding your balance and it will be smooth sailing from there on out.

SEE THE FUTURE
An ancient proverb goes, “Without a vision, the people perish.” And the same is true for relationships. Differences on kids, finances and even where you want to live can turn into deal-breakers later on.

Make those decisions now and you’ll have a goal to work toward together.

DON’T SAVE UP ON A RING
When it comes time for him to put a ring on it, smaller is better. Spend over $2,000 on your engagement ring and you increase your chance of getting divorced with every extra dollar that you spend.


DON’T SAVE FOR THE CEREMONY
It’s a hard pill to swallow, until you read the statistics. The more a couple spends on their marriage the more likely they are to get divorced.


START WORKING ON YOUR INVITE LIST NOW
Couples who elope are 12.5% more likely to get divorced than couples who have 200+ filling up those wedding chairs. Why? Because the more friends and family you have around to witness your marriage, the longer it will last. So if you want a big wedding without breaking the bank, better start saving now.

PUT THAT ARGUMENT TO BED
Every couple has that one that they’ve been having over and over again. It’s time to change what you say until you find a way to settle it, before you get married.


KEEP YOUR PROBLEMS PRIVATE
Venting to your girls is for the first few dates. If you plan on being in it for the long haul, keep your complaints within the marriage. Misery loves company. Spill relationship tea to the wrong person and they could lead you astray.


GET HELP
You wouldn’t drive your car for three years without a checkup, and a relationship is no different. A little advice now can save you years of bickering and misunderstanding down the line.












Meg Butler (Madame Noire)

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